tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7491563853601591277.post9147680580984733474..comments2023-07-25T18:00:32.481+10:00Comments on Multiplicity: Mum & Me and defining healingMultipleMehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00292993284991878239noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7491563853601591277.post-61239888735626611372011-01-07T11:43:27.465+11:002011-01-07T11:43:27.465+11:00Thanks Castorgirl
My Mum has been suffering from ...Thanks Castorgirl<br /><br />My Mum has been suffering from depression for a few years now, it is as much to do with that as it is Ann's passing. But you are right, I can only tell her about other options - healing needs to be a personal choice else it wont make a difference. Still it is hard to see her hurting so much.MultipleMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00292993284991878239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7491563853601591277.post-89100805199909125552011-01-06T12:14:45.176+11:002011-01-06T12:14:45.176+11:00I identify with a few of the things you talk about...I identify with a few of the things you talk about here - in particular your mother both appearing strong/stubborn, yet you still needing to protect her. This is the same dynamic I have with my mother.<br /><br />If your mother wants to put on a brave face regarding Ann's passing, there is not much you can do. Each of us deals with grief differently, and you can't force your mother to seek help. You can say it to her as an option, but that's as far as your responsibility goes. I know that is easier said than done.<br /><br />I'm glad you're thinking realistically about what you think you can handle in terms of university. <br /><br />Take care,<br />CGcastorgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04560894692437345653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7491563853601591277.post-77310612260203269892011-01-05T14:28:06.937+11:002011-01-05T14:28:06.937+11:00I know it hurts. But you have to give yourself the...I know it hurts. But you have to give yourself the permission to help yourself first.Paul from Mind Partshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16327940093749165270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7491563853601591277.post-59485999496736297922011-01-05T12:04:22.225+11:002011-01-05T12:04:22.225+11:00Thank you Paul, I do try and remember but it hurts...Thank you Paul, I do try and remember but it hurts to see her so upset all the time and know she is not making the choice to heal. But it is her choice to make and she needs to make it in her own time else it wont work.MultipleMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00292993284991878239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7491563853601591277.post-85720443754818069822011-01-05T08:05:33.181+11:002011-01-05T08:05:33.181+11:00You are doing so much. The way you are talking to ...You are doing so much. The way you are talking to your mother sounds like you are making a real big effort and I am a believer that the effort is 90% of the solution. It's hard for a loved one to really understand DID. I struggle with that with my wife. If it all confuses us so much, it must confuse loved ones. Just remember this, and I think you do: her pain is her own. It's not yours to heal.Paul from Mind Partshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16327940093749165270noreply@blogger.com